Caleb O. Bonm

Caleb Oken-Berg Bonm is a Principal at the firm. He served as the firm’s President from 2020-2024. Caleb’s practice focuses exclusively on family law, including divorce/dissolution, domestic partnership issues, complex asset divisions, prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, parenting plan and child support modifications, child custody, parentage actions, and LGBTQ+-specific legal issues. Caleb also assists families with adoption and assisted reproductive technology (ART) legal matters such as donor agreements and surrogacy agreements.

Caleb regularly represents clients in the unique and complex area of international family law, including international child custody issues, divorce with international financial issues, and international jurisdictional matters in the context of family law. Caleb handles international child abduction cases in both state and federal court, including matters involving the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. He also serves as a resource and mentor for attorneys in the area of international child custody issues.

In addition to his representation of family law clients, Caleb serves as a neutral by assisting parties in resolving family law disputes as a mediator and arbitrator. He also serves as a Family Court Commissioner pro tempore in King County Superior Court.

Caleb is admitted to practice in the federal and state courts of Washington, and United States Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit. In 2015, Caleb founded a pro bono family law legal clinic for patients and community members associated with the Sea Mar Community Health Center in the South Park neighborhood of Seattle.

Caleb is a member of the American Bar Association, International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, King County Bar Association, King County Collaborative Law, National LGBTQ+ Bar Association, QLaw Association, Washington State Bar Association, and the William L. Dwyer Inn of Court in Seattle. He is past President of QLaw and is a member of the National LGBT Bar Association’s Family Law Institute. Caleb is the author of the “Same-Sex Dissolution Issues” chapter of the LexisNexis Washington Family Law Practice Guide.

Caleb was recognized in The Best Lawyers in America® 2026 edition for Family Law. He was also recognized as a Washington Super Lawyers® honoree in 2024 and 2025, and a Rising Star honoree in 2017-2023. In 2016, Caleb was honored as one of the 40 Best LGBT Lawyers under 40 in the U.S. by the National LGBT Bar Association.

Memberships & Affiliations:

American Bar Association

International Academy of Collaborative Professionals

King County Bar Association

King County Collaborative Law

National LGBTQ+ Bar Association

Q-Law (LGBTQ+ Bar Association of Washington)

Washington State Bar Association

William L. Dwyer Inn of Court

Languages:

French/Français

Spanish/Español

Education:

J.D., Seattle University School of Law

B.A., Pomona College

Awards & Honors:

Recognized in The Best Lawyers in America® 2026 edition for Family Law

Recognized as a Washington Super Lawyers® Super Lawyer honoree in 2024 and 2025

Recognized as a Washington Super Lawyers® Rising Star honoree in 2017 – 2023

Recognized as one of the 40 Best LGBT Lawyers under 40 in the U.S. by the National LGBT Bar Association in 2016

Admitted to Family Law Institute (FLI) of National LGBT Bar Association in 2013

People on the Move – Puget Sound Business Journal – 2012

People on the Move – Seattle Business Magazine – 2012

Presentations: 

Family Law Mid-Year Hot Topics, Everything You Need to Know About Surrogacy and Assisted Reproduction, Including the New Statute, presented at King County Bar Association CLE, 2019

At the Intersection of Family Law and the Rest of the Legal World, LGBT Family Law Issues, Whatcom County Bar Association CLE, 2018

Family Law from Start to Finish, Enforcing the Judgment and Contempt Proceedings, presented at National Business Institute CLE, 2017

Complex Assets in Divorce, Post-Decree Litigation, presented at National Business Institute CLE, 2015

Family Law: Advanced Issues, Unions of Same-Sex and Unmarried Couples, presented at National Business Institute CLE, 2014

Divorce Law: Common Mistakes in Dividing Assets, Inaccurate Valuation of Assets, presented at National Business Institute CLE, 2014

Life After DOMA: Family Law Implications for Washington State, Whatcom County Bar Association CLE, 2013

Marriage & Domestic Partnerships in Washington, LGBT Adoption & Alternative Reproduction Issues, presented at LGBT Immigration and Family Law Forum, 2012

Financial Divorce Settlements From Start to Finish, Finding, Valuing, and Dividing Other Assets and Debts, National Business Institute CLE, 2011

Publications:

Same Sex Dissolution Issues, LexisNexis Practice Guide Washington Family Law, October 2016

Merged: Conversion of Washington Domestic Partnerships to Marriages and Immigration Law, NW Lawyer, June 2014 (with Andre Olivie)

Life in a Post-DOMA World, NW Lawyer, October 2013 (with Elizabeth Hershman)